害怕被吐槽?那就别再吐槽别人了!

来源:搜狐教育 2016-04-06 13:48:00

Aboutamonthago,IthoughtIwouldtrytogoawholedaywithoutjudginganyoneelseIencountered.Haveanyofyouevertriedit?It'sincrediblyhard.

大约一个月前的一天,我突然想要尝试坚持一天不去评判任何人。有人试过这么做吗?真的很难。

Mychallengeofgoingawholedaywithoutjudgingactuallyturnedintoanexercisethatsaidlessaboutthepeoplearoundmeandmoreaboutmyself;itcausedmetostartexaminingmyself.

坚持一天不去评判别人,这项挑战到后来更像是一种练习,锻炼我少说闲话,多关注自己。它让我开始审视我自己。

Iwonderifsometimeswefearthewayothersrespondtousbecausethewaytheytreatusisamirrorofthewayweourselvesbehave.Maybethat'swhywenoticecertainattributesinothers,andmaybethat'swhythoseattributescangetunderourskin.Perhapsit'sbecausedeepdownweidentifywiththesebehaviorsthatrubusthewrongway.

我很好奇,是不是有时我们害怕别人对待自己的态度是因为这恰好映射出了我们的行为。也许,这也是为什么我们会对别人身上某些特质特别敏感、特别抓狂。

Duringmydayofnojudgment,Itriedhardtofocusmythoughtsinward,soasnottobetemptedtojudge.AndwhileIwastakingagoodhardlookatmyself,Irealizedthatmyfearofbeingjudgedcamefrommyowntendencytojudge.

在没有了评判的一整天中,我试着关注自己的内心,这样就不会有对人指手画脚的想法了。然而当我好好反省自己的时候,我认识到,我对外界评判的恐惧竟然来源于自己评判别人的习惯。

"Lookathershoes;Ican'tbelievesheworethatdress;checkoutthatguy'shair."Maybeit'sjusthumannaturetodothis,butonceIbecameconsciousofthehabit,IrealizedhowoftenIdoit,whichbroughtupthemillion-dollarquestion:"WhoamItojudge?"Noone,that'swho!

“看她那双鞋啊!”“这种裙子她也敢穿出来?”“看那男人的发型。”也许这些都是人之本性,而一旦我注意到这一习惯,就会发现它有多频繁。接着关键问题就来了:“我有什么资格去评判?”答案就是:没有!

Afteradayofworkinghardnottojudgeanyone,Iwasexhausted.IwasgratefultogethomewhereIdidn'thavetointeractwithanyone.Butthedayofexaminingmyselfhadleftmereeling.

在没有了评判的一整天中,我身心俱疲。我很庆幸终于能够回到家,不用再和任何人打交道。不过这一天的自我反省让我内心大为震动。

Ifyou'veneverexaminedyourself,goaheadanddoit!Ifyou'reafraidtodoit(becauseyou'reafraidofwhatyou'llfindout)that'sevenmoreofareasontogoaheadwiththeexercise.Examiningyourselfcanhelpyoubuildahealthyself-awareness.

如果你还没试过审视自我,放手去做吧!如果你对此感到害怕(因为你害怕会发现什么结果),那这恰恰是你要去这么做的理由。审视自己将会帮助你建立自我认知。

Sogoahead--checkyourselfout!Youneverknowwhatyoumightfind.

所以,来吧——审视你自己!你永远不知道会有什么样的发现。

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